Dear Coleen
Over a year ago my ex-girlfriend split up with me. I was really down and upset for a few weeks, so I decided to see an escort to cheer myself up.
For the past six months I have seen this escort often.
Apart from the sex, I really enjoy her company. She’s sweet, kind, caring and beautiful.
We talk about everything and now I think I may be falling for this girl. Am I foolish to have these kind of feelings for a girl in this line of work?
Coleen says
You’re a single guy, so you’re free to do as you wish and shouldn’t feel bad about it.
But here’s what you have to remember – it’s a job for her.
And you could be wasting a lot of money on something that will probably never end up being what you want it to be.
It could also stop you meeting someone who is right for you and does want a relationship.
My opinion is, if this girl wanted more from you, she would have let you know by now – and, erm, would have stopped charging you!
It doesn’t mean she doesn’t enjoy spending time with you, but to her you’re really no more than a paying client.
And how do you feel about the fact that after you’ve seen her, the following night she’ll have another paying client?
Yes, she understands what you want and what you need right now, but it’s unlikely she’ll ever be totally yours so you have to think very carefully about the sense in continuing to see her.
You sound reliant on her, which may be because you never gave yourself time to get over your girlfriend properly.
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